Friday, July 10, 2015

Phallic Friday - exhibitionism

Exhibitionism is today's fetish. The gives this definition:
1. The act or practice of deliberately behaving so as to attract attention.
2. Psychiatry A psychosexual disorder marked by the compulsive exposure of the genitals in public.
I'm naturally an introvert, which I think is a good thing, otherwise this would be my fetish of choice!
There's something thrilling about having an intimate act witnessed by others - and I'm not talking about a wild cheering crowd, or having it displayed to the masses. My idea would be more of a peep-hole visitor, or someone stumbling on you.
Years ago when I was a talker addict, a couple of cyber-friends were arranging their meet. He said she should wear a big flowing skirt, like a gypsy skirt. She laughed and said she thought he'd prefer a tight mini. But no, he wanted a large flowing skirt so when they met in the park, if they wanted to have sex, she could sit on his lap and no one would know what they were doing. God, I couldn't get that vision from my head. Imagine having sex like that, where anyone could see, would know what you were doing. I'm sad to report that it didn't happen like that when they met - or so they told me!

I'm not a big fan of clothes - except in winter when I layer upon layer to keep warm - so when I was younger, nudist colonies quite appeal to me. I was shocked to find that they don't go for sex in public. It kind of put a dampener on my desire to visit. Not that I really wanted to see public sex everywhere I went...I just wanted the ability to have sex where someone might catch you and watch. And of course they'd never giggle, you'd never jiggle, and everything would be perfect! :)
You might notice it's kind of a theme that pops up in a lot of my stories - public sex when someone stumbles across them in the act. There's something in that adage of 'those who can't, write.' I don't know that I'd ever have the courage to have sex where I could be caught, and with cameras on every device in every pocket, it's even less likely to happen now.

Sometimes I'm not sure it's an exhibitionist tendency I have... maybe it's more that I don't think nudity or sex are wrong, therefore I don't think they should be hidden away and made out to be wrong/smutty/dirty/forbidden. I think we need to be more open about the human form in all it's differences ... but I'm not going first! 

So, although I like the idea of this fetish, I'm way too much of an introvert to participate.

Do you have any exhibitionist tendencies, or wishes?


  1. "Do I have any exhibitionist tendencies, or wishes?"
    Errr. No. But I really like the photos of your pelicans on Wildlife Wednesday... :)

    1. LOL! Glad the pelicans kept you happy!!

      Cate xo