Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Wildlife Wednesday - the river, stingray and fish

Fish - maybe mullet
When my sister and her kids were visiting, the river was teh other haunt. We had such fun the two days there. Boats went past creating waves to jump, and they had people in them who waved! Kids love people waving at them :)

Almost 2 years ago, our river broke open to the sea for the first time in 25 years and cleaned out. Before then it was stagnant and filthy (not so much with rubbish, just with staleness). So there's been a marked increase in the biodiversity in the river.
Stingray - can you see him?

We saw some large fish, like flathead, scoot from their resting place, basking in the shallows. We saw some young bream or mullet or such fish, swimming around. We saw, and caught, some tiny baby fish like the one in the shallow green bucket.

To my amazement we saw a large stingray. He was maybe 1.2m across or so. Just cruising around the shallows. Not sure if you can see him in the picture but hopefully you can see the lifted flap as he swam off (about mid photo) with his eye carefully looking at me.

Tiniest fish caught (<1cm br="" long="">
A couple of women on their horses came by and the kids got to pat the horses. A heap of people walk dogs along the river and some were kid friendly and came to have a pat and a scratch.

There were pelicans soaring, ducks swimming, shags airing their wings. Black swans in the distance. Seagulls checking out if we had food.

The river is now a place teaming with life. I hope it doesn't take another 25 years before it flushes clean again.

Friday, April 24, 2015

Phallic Friday - binding

Last week we talked about spanking and whipping, this week takes it a little further - binding.

I used to be a talker junkie, way back when the internet was starting. I was on a BDSM talker and I met some amazing people, but one man who I adored was into binding, in a big way.

If we 'played' we acted out his fantasy, which was to tape someone up. Not just their mouth, but to bind their wrists, their ankles, then slowly bind their body. Sometimes it was to something, like a whipping post. Sometimes it was just to be bound and left with strategic places exposed. Left helpless, dependent upon him for help, pleasure...and everything.

Now I should explain that talkers were like chat rooms now. So 'playing' meant talking/typing, and all was anonymous. No images. No emails. No idea who the person really was, unless you decided to meet in real life, away from the talker. So it was relatively long as you were careful. And the fantasies you acted out, had to be described, in words, and so you could fake anything, or go as far as you wanted with something - even log off if it all got too weird.

So...back to my binding man. We talked for some months and I learned a little about his real life. The most fascinating thing about him was that he had these binding fantasies...that he had never acted out and never shared except on talkers...and his real life job was so so so much like his fantasies it was incredibly amazing. He was an anaesthetist.

I don;t think he could really understand my complete and utter fascination about this. It made him uncomfortable when I brought up his real life job and tied it to his fantasy. He took his job very seriously. He didn't see that the two things connected - or didn't want to see. But to me, it was purely fascinating. Did he have the fantasy because of the job, or the job because of the fantasy? Or were they really not connected?

For many months we talked about this but we never really came to a conclusion. He thought he'd always had binding fantasies but that they'd become stronger the older he got. So he imagined that there was a little of the fantasy driving his career choice, but also his career choice driving the fantasy further.

One interesting thing about him. I tried to marry his fantasy to his job, by encouraging him to do a 'scene' online where I was on the operating table and he was binding me. Nope. He could not do it. Totally freaked him out. He could bind me elsewhere, but I couldn't link his work with his thrills.

It made me want him to be my anaesthetist if I ever needed one. But I was never really into the complete immobilisation from binding. I like my bit of control!

Ever thought about binding? or being bound?

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Wildlife Wednesday - octopus and rockpools

At the beach
My sister came to visit last week with Miss 3 and Mr 7. We had days like it was summer (and the last 3 days have been wet and cold, so they were special days!). We spent every day at the beach or the river or on the rocks.

I'm very lucky to live where I do. I lived most of my life inland, and away from the ocean, so when the chance came to live on the coast, we were rather choosy about where we lived - well, after we took into consideration the cost of houses, which was the most limiting factor, really!

So, back to the holidays! We attacked the waves at the beach. This is usually fun when I'm by myself. Add Mr 7 swinging off my arm and it was fun, with a dash of scary. My sister was freezing and not in swimmers, so if a wave took him, it was up to me. Then Miss 3 wanted to join in the fun. So Miss 3 swinging on my hip and Mr 7 off my arm ramped up the scary...but lordy it was fun! They squealed so much as the waves came in to wet us.

Then we hit the rock pools. There's a rock platform nearby with a rock swimming pool. I thought the kids would enjoy the pool but I was wrong! After seeing Mr Octopus lurking around the edges, they weren't so thrilled by the thought of sharing a huge swimming pool with him!! They believe swimming pools should be crystal blue, chlorinated and preferably with a roof!!

But we spent hours poking around rock pools (the small non-swimming variety) looking at all manner of weeds, soft corals, periwinkles and barnacles, little fish and funny anemones.

Exploring rockpools
Then we found a few gorgeous little starfish that the kids could hold and feel walking across their hands. I think they enjoyed them...but the squeals may have been of fear. Who knows? I enjoyed it :)

I love the tidal rock pools, love the beach. It's a great excuse to have visitors and spend the day enjoying nature at its finest!

Are you a beach person?


Saturday, April 18, 2015

Phallic Friday - late and in trouble, need spanking

I'm late and Lily has already called me out about it on Twitter. My apologies. I was having too much fun this week with visitors and now my brain is fried with exhaustion! We spent a lot of time at the beach and the river...and the weather gods were kind and gave us a late summer :)

Anyway, Phallic Friday - this week is about spanking and whipping.

My sister bought me a book many years ago called Spank Me, and it was a history of spanking.'s not on my bookcase and must be in the garage in my other book cupboard. So I can't give you any details about the book...and google and amazon aren't helping me.

Anyway, suffice to say that I've been interested in this form of fetish for a while now. There's something thrilling and exhilarating about spanking or whipping. Now, I'm not talking about a thrashing or a belting here. I'm talking about spanking for fun. For the stimulation. The thrill. The sharp jag of pain, the shock, the unexpectedness.

I know alot of people associate spanking with childhood trauma, or childhood spankings/chastisement. I don't know that fun spanking can be linked to that - maybe the humiliation spankings could be, as they're more associated with the punishment, humiliation, degradation aspects.

For me, the fun aspect comes from the unexpectedness. The sharp jag of pain. It rips you from yourself. Focuses on the external. gets you out of your had and into the event.

In my exhausted state here, I've probably shared far too much! Sorry if I've fallen into the TMI post.

How do you feel about spanking?

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Wildlife Wednesday - Black Swans

Just a quick post this week because I have visitors.

The Black Swans have come back. They've been away for the summer - wonder where they went - but have returned. The black dots on the sand bar here are about a third of the black swans that were lined up there. I couldn't get a shot of them all because this sand bar is in the middle of the river and this is zoomed in heaps so you can see them. There must have been a couple of hundred birds - 2 pelicans, 1 cormorant and the rest black swans! It was amazing.

Friday, April 10, 2015

Phallic Friday - fetishes on TV

Just a break from my list because I'm a little excited! I watched Criminal Minds last night and it feature fetishes...and a fetish I've done but didn't actually discuss! How remiss of me.

A couple of weeks back we looked at 'leg things' and discussed toe sucking, shoes, stockings, etc.

Last night's episode of Criminal Minds took this even further. A guy had a leg fetish...and he collected legs from dead people, had them stored in silica and ammonium hydroxide in his garage, and took them out to caress them, often. His wife said before they were married she'd caught him humping a mannequin but he told her he was struggling to fix it, so she ignored him.

He wasn't the killer, because fetishists are usually pacifists (I think that's what they said) and don't go outside their fetish (for this guy, the leg was the object of value, the capture, torture, killing and death were not things he'd be interested in).

So after the episode, it looks like fetishes might be a bit of a theme in this season of the show. Or maybe it's online groups, and fetishes were only touched on in this episode. Anyway, it was interesting to see something feature on TV that I'd been interested in anyway.

Are you a Criminal Minds fan?

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Fairway to Heaven

Just breaking normal scheduling because yesterday was the release day of Lily Malone's Fairway to Heaven.

This book features a dodgy vagina, and since we're all about interesting stuff, sciencey and sexy, dodgy vaginas are a fascinating topic!

Okay, so there's a LOT more to the story than just that. And it's set in beautiful WA, and features Busselton jetty and squid jigging, so there's lots to love about it.

If you haven't read it (or written it!), may I suggest you grab yourself a copy.

Here's the blurb to tempt you more:

It’s going to take more than summer loving to heal old wounds, but a remote beach, old friendships and a bit of sunshine might just spark a second chance at love.

When Jennifer Gates drives to Sea Breeze Golf Club to kick off date-night with her boyfriend, the last thing she expects is to find Golf Pro Jack giving one of his lady students a private—and very personal—lesson in bunker-play.

Lucky for Jenn, her best friend gives her the keys to the Culhane family’s beach shack on the white-pepper shores of Western Australia’s Geographe Bay. Jenn hopes a weekend on the coast with her young son will give her the space she needs to rebuild her confidence after Jack’s betrayal.

But she’s not the only person seeking sanctuary by the sea. Brayden Culhane is there too, and Jenn can’t look at Brayden without remembering the tequila-flavoured kiss they shared on the shack steps years ago.
As long-buried feelings are rekindled, and a friendship is renewed, Jenn knows it is more than lazy summer days bringing her mojo back. Romantic sunsets, ice-cold beers and the odd round of golf can only go so far, because this time trusting Brayden with her heart won’t be enough. Jenn has to learn to trust her body, too.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Wildlife Wednesday - more bugs

I was visiting my sister and her family on the weekend and I went out to play touch footy with my nephew...and had to put the game on hold to get my camera for Wildlife Wednesday - there was a bug!

Bug with a side order of copulating soldier beetles
Actually, their whole backyard was swarming with soldier beetles - in the lawn, on the plants, on the soccer goals we used as the try line. And on those soccer goals were hundreds of copulating soldier beetles...but they weren't what stopped the footy game. It was this bug that only its mother could love!

View of the bug from above
It's like a cross between a crusader bug, a stink bug, and a weevil. I'd never seen one before but my sister said they often had them - not that the kids had seen one either. And those kids were fascinated while I was...then Miss 3 threw a hissy fit when the photos were over and a soldier beetle happened to land on her! Lucky Mr 7 was more into touch footy than beetle/bug-panic!

So one of my insect books has a bug that's predatory and sucks the body fluids from a moth larva (Oechalia schellenbergii - Pentatomidae - Hermiptera) which looks somewhat similar. Oh...but it's not that. Drat!

and from the side
It could be an Assassin Bug (check it out here). The Australian Museum site doesn't have a picture,but they have a termite assassin bug, which is a predator that eats termites. I wonder if this guy has adapted to the tasty joy of soldier beetles?

Okay, so I can't find an exact match that I'm happy with - so situation normal here! I'll temporarily call him an assassin bug and see if I stumble across something better!

If you know what it is, then please let me know!

PS I lost the touchy footy by a long way!

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Sunday Story - in print

at QBD Bookshop


Image result for easter egg image

Last weekend we went up to the footy but we made a detour to some bookshops so I could find the Housewives and have a photo with them :)

I know, it's kind of silly, but I was in a book on a real shelf for the first time.
at Target

I was one of eleven in the book.

I can't wait until it's my very own book - I guess that'll be a while yet! LOL

The Housewives are at Target, Big W, K-mart, and selected bookshops. The bookshop had it for $15.99 and Target for $10. But I had to hunt around for it. My local shops didn't stock it (we're a prudish town!)

Friday, April 3, 2015

Phallic Friday - latex, rubber, leather

This week's fetish is material - latex, rubber and leather. I have to admit that I don't understand this fetish much at all...but I can appreciate people who do love their 'fabrics'.

There are online stores set up to provide for your every need, like this one, The Latex Store. There are women's and men's clothing as well as the stuff you associate with fetishes or kinks, like hoods, masks, sex toys, bondage gear, extreme kinky sex (which has some total coverage gear) and heavy weight latex.

Some of the gear looks like regular clothes - like leggings, skirts, tops - so you can experience your fetish without drawing attention to it. Others are the stereotypical latex wear of masks, bondage gear, sexy outfits for Dommes or Doms, and for male and female subs.

Sax Fetish is an Aussie store supplying all your leather fetish needs. Again, regular clothing as well as kinky wear. It even has Marsupial Bondage Toys, which are much tamer than I imagined! They're stuffed toys dressed in bondage gear - you know, suitable for your overseas guests :)

I think it's the clothing aspect I don't understand about this fetish. I'm too much into flesh to bother about clothes, so to dress in this sort of gear, in my mind, is a wasted effort! But if you're prolonging sex, and aiming for a steamy night of role play or D/s play or just spicing things up, then yes, I totally get that these can be a huge turn on.

So, are you into a fabric fetish? And which is your choice?

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Wildlife Wednesday - poor little bugs

Soldier Beetles
I found these poor little bugs washed up on a beach this past weekend - not my beach, but a nearby one. I took a photo of them because they wash up in their hundreds and it's quite amazing how many there are. These were marking the high water line.

I remembered doing a post on them and I thought it was last year, but it was 2 years ago (how quickly the years pass). You can find it here.

My sister was visiting at the time and we found they were Soldier Beetles, often called Plague Soldier Beetles, and they appear in vast numbers when conditions are right.

I haven't seen too many down my way yet, so maybe our conditions haven't been quite right yet.