It’s something that’s always bugged me though, so I thought I’d blog about it. I was brought up in a fairly strict Catholic family. When I had the birds and bees chat (which was less chat and more book reading) and learned what a virgin was, I lost a bit of faith in the religion. It whittled away over time as my knowledge (and scepticism) grew. I wonder if religion is a major culprit in making sex taboo. Sex was not taboo in the pagan tradition. I wonder if religion developed in the opposite manner deliberately - like a rebellious teen.
Humans seem focussed on striving forwards - being bigger, better, faster - and sex doesn’t do that. Sex is a tangential distraction. Is that why it’s become taboo? It keeps us from achieving? Women put off having children so they can further their careers, and it’s encouraged. The subliminal message is that procreation doesn’t come before a career - sex is not important.
I went Googling to see what I could find. There’s a very interesting post I found from The Honest Courtesan. I think I might have to check that site out. Amazing what you find on Google.
In a Psychology Today article, Nathan Heflick claims that sex is taboo because it reminds humans of their basic, core animal nature. And maybe he has a point. There’s nothing more animalistic than rutting - all that sweat, grunting and primal instincts. He links the animalistic nature to humans fear of death - and weren’t orgasms referred to as “a little death” in years gone by? So if we think we’re above animals, and we’re scared of death, then sex is definitely not something we want to experience too often, is it?
I hate to think what this means for erotic writers and sex maniacs - are we linked more closely to animals and/or death? :)