Phallic Friday - touching strangers

This fetish is about getting sexual gratification from touching strangers, especially surreptitiously. This is called Frotteurism.

Have you ever done this, or had it done to you?

I must admit that in my younger years, when dancing and after having more than a few drinks, I have been known to rub up against guys to 'check out their package'. A friend told me she always did it, and I thought she was kidding. But I tried it and it was a lot of fun - for both people. Oh, so I guess I wasn't doing this surreptitiously, hey? If you've had a few too many drinks, nothing is very sneaky, is it?

This has happened to me too, especially when I was going to school on public transport. Mostly I thought it was just a crowded train so I'll never really know if they were rubbing against me and getting off on it.

But once, I was on a train heading away from Sydney towards Melbourne (the overnighter) and it was an old train with those dog boxes (that's what we called them, maybe not the technical name), where there were sectioned off  'rooms' along the carriage and each 'room' had two bench seats facing each other where 4 - 5 people could sit on each side. Above were luggage racks and space below the seats too. It was cold and draughty, but when the windows and doors were closed and night fell, it could be kind of snuggly (there was a funny little heater too for winter nights).

So this night I'm on the train with a bunch of strangers but we'd chatted while the sun was up and shared food and what not. It was a mix of guys and girls, young and old. The train was going to arrive at my destination about 2.30 am, so I'd always sleep and the conductor would wake me (and any passenger, if you remained in your assigned seat). So I'm asleep, and I'm toasty warm, snuggled up, and absolutely loving the bliss...except I started to wake, to find I'm cocooned by the guy who was next to me (he looked like a muso - long hair, angular features, he was really quiet and intense) and we have a doona over us...and he's not just rubbing himself against my butt and leg, he has his hands on my breasts and he's going for it. OMG. I had no idea what to do. Everyone's asleep. He's almost there and I'm feeling pretty damn good, if a little weirded out. What the hell should I do?

I pretended to stay asleep :) It seemed the easiest option. He got his satisfaction, I wasn't completely embarrassed, and then the conductor came to wake me. I smiled and thanked the guy before racing away!

Mum would have told me that I should have screamed and reported him. Probably most sane people would say the same. But I didn't. I didn't want to embarrass him, the rest of the people, myself. Besides, he was hardly harming me...there was no penetration, no clothing removal, and even his hands were gentle and remained on my outer garments. I wasn't hurt. In a way I kind of enjoyed the strange event...and I remember it even though it happened over 20 years ago. It was one of those weird encounters that you're not sure if it happened or you dreamed it. I wonder now if he had this fetish, or if he was just taking advantage of an unsuspecting, sleeping traveller?

I think this is one of those peculiar but kind of fun fetishes.

If you want to read a story that delves into this fetish, try Charlotte Stein's Closer. This is the blurb:

Judy has a bad habit, one that gets worse during the busy Christmas season. She likes to rub against strangers on trains. And with all the hot businessmen on her route, she’s not kicking the habit anytime soon. After all, she’s not really hurting anyone. But she definitely feels dirty when a gorgeous stranger catches her in the act—until it’s clear he wants to join in, and he’s not the type to take no for an answer. In fact, he isn’t taking no for an answer on a lot of things.Judy may think she’s only willing to go so far, or get so close. But Holt thinks differently…

Well, that was tricky to find. If you want to read it, you'll have to find it in the anthology Merry Kinkmas and buy it from Ellora's Cave. The link is here and it's on special for $5 - containing more than just this fabulous story.

Wildlife Wednesday - Crow/Raven

I've been feeding magpies for a while now and the Currawongs, Butcherbird and Crows have now started to appear for the scraps. They're not eating when I go inside, but they're on the outskirts while I feed the magpies, eating anything they can find and looking forlornly at me in the hope that I throw far and wide - which sometimes I do.

But it made me wonder if this visitor was a raven or a crow. So I had to go and consult my trusty Pizzey (A Field Guide to the Birds of Australia by Graham Pizzey).

He says, "Although the names 'raven' and 'crow' are used specifically for one or other Australian species, their differences are slight." (means I have no hope!) "In Australia, ravens differ from crows mostly in size and in the colour of the down at the base of the body-feathers." (see, I knew it!)

There are Australian Ravens, Forest Ravens, Little Ravens, Little Crows, House Crows and Torresian Crows. Australian Ravens and Little Ravens are both in my area. So I'm going to be a total wimp and not hazard a guess, except it's a raven :)

Pizzey tells me that they have white eyes when adult, so my visitor must be a juvenile. And their eyes are brown for a period of 12-15 months depending on species, then they turn hazel and move to white over time. Cool, huh?


I'm not sure how many more Wildlife Wednesdays I'm going to be able to do. I'm running out of local wildlife! But I have a bit of a holiday coming up, so maybe I can stock up on some out-of-town wildlife then. Until I replenish my supplies, I might extend the posts to include flowers...and yes, I'll be as hopeless at identifying them as I am with critters, maybe worse!!

Sunday Story - Cafe Nix

Did you know I wrote an epilogue for Deep Diving? It's in a little book called It Happened At Cafe Nix, which is a story set in a Cafe, where a whole heap of Escape authors introduce their characters through epilogues or prologues or deleted scenes or related scenes. It's a great way to 'meet' new authors and sample their writing - as well as being an awesome story by itself.

So, why am I telling you this?

Because I wanted to show the photo in this tweet. It's clean, so it's safe to click. It's a couple of Storm players, one with his baby and another greeting the child.

Not this photo exactly, but photos similar to this were a bit of an inspiration for the Cooper Sterling character in Deep Diving. You don't often see men-who-aren't-dads, especially footy players, interacting with kids, and it melts my heart.

So that's why Cooper Sterling doesn't worry when Sam wants a child. He loves kids. And in the epilogue, when he's holding the baby in the Cafe and being the adoring Dad...this is the sort of photo I had in my head.

Anyway, that's my gratuitous post for the month. You'd think I'd move on, wouldn't you?

If you're interested in reading It Happened At Cafe Nix, you can find it:

Amazon AU: http://www.amazon.com.au/Happened-at-Cafe-Nix-ebook/dp/B00Z06ROKS/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1437707579&sr=1-1&keywords=It+Happened+At+Cafe+Nix

Amazon US: http://www.amazon.com/Happened-at-Cafe-Nix-ebook/dp/B00Z06ROKS/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1437707654&sr=1-1&keywords=it+happened+at+cafe+nix

Amazon UK: http://www.amazon.co.uk/It-Happened-at-Cafe-Nix-ebook/dp/B00Z06ROKS

Kobo: https://store.kobobooks.com/en-US/ebook/it-happened-at-cafe-nix

Smashwords: http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/547630

iBooks: https://itunes.apple.com/au/book/it-happened-at-cafe-nix/id1002219894?mt=11

Wattpad: https://www.wattpad.com/story/31140939-it-happened-at-cafe-nix

NB It's minimal cost at Amazon, but free elsewhere

Phallic Friday - tattoos

Today's fetish is tattoos. I'm not talking about the single tattoo you get, and probably not even that sleeve, or those sleeves. This is more when tattoos become who you are, or change who you are.

A good example, and probably the first person I saw who did this, is The Lizardman. He has a website here. He has tattooed his body, and had other body modifications, so that he now resembles a lizard. He has a FAQ section which makes for interesting reading. His reason for body modification has everything to do with performance art, as well as philosophical questioning on what it means to be human. He makes no mention of the word fetish...and maybe it's not a true fetish because it doesn't seem to be done for sexual gratification. So maybe I need to re-think him as an example. But he's the first person who pops into my mind when I think of a tattooing fetish.

When Googling this, I've found sites where people talk about sexual gratification from the pain of being tattooed (stigmatophilia). One guy says "...I just love having ink, I love getting it, I love the pain, I love the healing, I love looking at it and I love when women touch it." He's on his way to getting his whole body covered in tatts.

There are people who get off on self-tattooing. These may not be intricate designs, just a series of dots. There are websites that link tattoos with another fetish, the most common seems to be foot fetishes linked with tattoo fetish, so there are heaps of videos of feet being tattooed. And if that's your thing...you must seriously love youtube!

One of the Dragons footy players has some serious tattoos that tell the story of his life. I don't know if he'd call it a fetish, but there are heaps and heaps of tattoos on him - and still space for more. If you're interested, Google "Josh Dugan tattoos" there's a few stories about his tatts and some stunning photos of them too. I have to admit to studying them quite closely when we're at the Dragons games (Mr E's team)...they've inspired a bit of a story too. I develop a little bit more of the story at each game we go to. So I might have to do a whole story with a guy who has a tattoo fetish, and a girl who's an artist, mesmerised by his tatts.

Are you a fan of tatts? Or do you have a tattoo fetish?