Friday, May 19, 2017

Phallic Friday - threesomes

I was excited to read this post today (here) on the website.

It's about a family, in Texas, with 3 parents, expecting their 3rd child. It's a relationship between 2 women and 1 man, and they love their lifestyle. They claim that it allows them more time for themselves, each other and for friends/hobbies. They claim that they can parent and work, juggling the demands of life, much easier in a threesome than in a couple.

They also want marriage. They've been together for 5 years and would love to be married even thought it's not legal. 

And this is where I think marriage equality is missing the point. Same sex marriage, is fine, but it's really not enough. If you want to talk about equality, then it needs to be that marriage is available to any form of committed relationship. Yet, I know that's unlikely to happen because people baulk at same sex marriage, so I can only imagine how they'd react to multiple partners, or other forms of relationships. But I still think same-sex marriage should not be referred to as marriage equality because it's still leaving people without.

This is one of the things that writing my MMF brought into light for me. Why are duos considered normal and trios or more are considered abnormal? And if you're in a threesome, how do you keep your relationship valid when the rest of society claims it's invalid?

Reading about this threesome relationship gives me hope for my MMF story, Team Player. My threesome is 2 men and 1 woman, so not exactly the same, but I'm glad that there are people living in multiple partner arrangements no matter what society tells them in 'right'.

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Wildlife Wednesday - Gannets

A while back I did a post on what I thought might be the Australian Gannet - you can find it here. It's from 2014(!) and I was sure it wasn't THAT long ago!

Anyway, these birds are sometimes down near the beach, divebombing into the ocean for their feed. They're incredible to watch.

Here's some info from the Birds in Backyards website:
When they fly in groups, they're often herding fish into a shoal where they can dive and feed.
They have backward facing serrations on their bill that allows them to grasp the fish.
The fish is often swallowed before the bird reaches the surface even though they're only underwater for about 10 seconds.

Australian Geographic have and article here about the dangers these birds face when diving at speed after fish. They can have head or neck injuries from collisions with other birds, especially when they try to fight for the same fish!!

Gannets are now going to play a rather significant role in my writing life. I needed a team for my MMF rugby league book. I had picked a team name in my draft but there were a few other names similar, so I needed to make a change. And the Glebe Gannets came to my mind.

Let me give you a bit of backstory. Rugby league was created when a bunch of guys broke away from Rugby union because they wanted to be paid and compensated, especially for any injuries. This is why League has traditionally been the 'working class' game, and Union the 'rich man's' game.

Glebe, an inner city suburb of Sydney, was one of the first rugby league teams (there is some argument that it was the first, but others dispute this). Glebe no longer exists as a team in rugby league. I have a lot of connection to Glebe. My great-grandfather was one of those men who broke away from union to league. He played for Glebe. My grandparents lived in Glebe and I went to school there. So I think there's quite a lot of synergy for a Glebe team.

Gannets are here, at my beach. The two Gs go together. I'm sticking with a Sydney-based club. And Gannets are risk-takers, divebombing into the sea for food. They're awesome birds to watch. Brave and a little crazy. I think they'll work for my footy team.

My MMF story has found a home with Escape Publishing. I think it's even found a title - Team Player! And I have a team. Plus an editor. This means you should be able to read it sometime...maybe early in the new year. I'll let you know on dates (I don't have that yet!).

Welcome to the Glebe Gannets.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Sunday Story - The Hidden Life Of Trees

I read this book recently, The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben. It's been translated into English from German so it's very European-focussed with most of the trees mentioned completely unfamiliar to me, and yet it was an interesting book.

He's presenting trees in a very anthropomorphic way and many examples are related human health, or human life, or human habits. In the beginning it kind of grated on me, but by the end I could see his purpose - or at least I think it's his purpose!

He's trying to make people love tress, as they love fluffy animals. He's trying to save trees by giving them human attributes so we can relate to them and ensure their existence.

He's saying that trees have such a huge life-span that our lifetime is almost an infinitesimal blip in their 'thoughts'. He's showing examples of inter-tree communication and support, to encourage people not to grow the single tree in an isolated location, but to look at trees as 'herd-animals'.

It was a nifty approach and by the end I thought he was clever in trying to get people to see trees in this way.

I love trees and I've despaired a few times at how many have been cut down around me as people "protect" their homes and lives. I've very happy to co-exist with trees. A few have fallen near me over my lifetime, and sure it scares the heck out of me at the time, but I've been really lucky to never have had any huge disaster from fallen trees or branches. Maybe I would feel differently had this not been the case.

Anyway, this book gave me an interesting read, produced a lot of strange ideas for stories, and gave me an interesting way to look at bringing science messages to people. I enjoyed it.

Friday, May 12, 2017

Phallic Friday - hypocrites

You know what riles me up more than anything else in the world? 

Those who say one thing, often with so much power and conviction, yet go right on out and do the opposite. Often hiding it, hoping no one will ever know.

A while back, someone abused me for 'writing that shit', and their tone, words, and judgement really hurt me. I was shocked at how much it hurt. Now, I find out that the person who was so quick to judge me for writing about sex, and so horrified that I would write such shit, has been caught having sex where they shouldn't. And do you know what? In many circumstances, I'd be supportive and non-judgemental...but in this case, wow, I was so furious, I shocked myself.

When someone is exposed as a hypocrite, my fury knows no bounds. I'm not sure why this is. Sometimes you're passionate about something that's a character flaw in yourself, so maybe that's the issue, even if I hope not.

It has to do with my upbringing in a religious family and wider community, and my questioning nature. Those things were bound to clash!

I'm not outwardly rebellious or confrontational...I'm more likely to walk away and ignore something I'm not happy about. There is my character flaw regarding hypocrisy - I should stand and fight, yet I don't. Often I don't have the mental energy to bang my head against a brick wall trying to change people's opinions. Often I just don't want to get into an argument that is unlikely to be resolved. But anyway... back to religion and questions...

I don't have a 'blind faith' that is so often required in religions. I have a questioning mind, so I want to know how and why and what and who. I want logic in answers. I want to understand. 

Being logical means I want to see people do what they say they believe. I want examples of their Christianity, or their beliefs.

Too often I was let down. Most people can't explain their faith.  And so many with a blind faith, do so without actions reflecting their beliefs. They sprout forth platitudes e.g. we should help the poor, and yet they live in luxury without caring that the city has homeless people, let alone their church community has people struggling to feed their kids.

And so, hypocrisy brings me to hot, I stun myself into shame.