Friday, December 28, 2012

Phallic Friday - Phone Sex

Last week we spoke about cyber sex, which naturally leads into this week's topic of phone sex. 

Wikipedia defines this as: Phone sex is a type of virtual sex that refers to sexually explicit conversation between two or more persons via telephone, especially when at least one of the participants masturbates or engages in sexual fantasy. Phone sex conversation may take many forms, including (but not limited to): guided, sexual sounds, narrated, and enacted suggestions; sexual anecdotes and confessions; candid expression of sexual feelings or love and or discussion of very personal and sensitive sexual topics.

Phone sex exists both in the context of intimate relationships (e.g., among distanced lovers), and as a commercial transaction between a paying customer and a paid professional.

And if you're keen on googling, there were trillions of sites with phone sex tips - including the cliches most often used. 

That's where I think Phone Sex gets it's "ick" reputation from - cliches. The "What are you wearing?" line said with breathless anticipation. The answer, which of course is something gorgeously sexy and revealing, when the reality is the opposite.

But I think phone sex plays a great role in stimulating a relationship. It can be a great form if intimacy for long distance lovers, allowing them to connect in a way that is not physically possible. You can re-live your favourite sexual experience, enhancing it if you feel like pushing the boundaries.

The commercial nature of phone sex once interested me. I'd been skydiving and I seriously wanted to take it up as a hobby (I make a collection of expensive hobbies!) but the cost was too much, on top of other things I did. So one of my work colleagues suggested prostitution as a form of making more money (You can see I worked with great people :) ). But then when we got to the practicalities of prostitution in a rural community, it became a bit 'lacking in the impersonal'. So then we thought about phone sex. I thought I could do that... I need never know who was ringing and they would never know I was answering. Much better than a face to face meeting at the pub/supermarket an hour after the event. My colleague then suggested I could be vacuuming and saying, "Oh, baby give it to me. Push it harder." And after fits of giggles, the phone sex option went out the window (along with the skydiving, sadly). But it was a fun thought for a while!

Does phone sex have any good/funny memories for you?

3 comments:

  1. Hi Cate
    Tuning in for my weekly Phallic Friday edition... loving this part of your blog you out-there skydiving woman... And - I have something to add! My WIP (the one I'm struggling with like mad) has a heroine who uses phone sex to make money (support for her sick mother) and so I'd done a fair bit of googling on this one. I couldn't make it too 'ick' in terms of cliche's etc or no one could possibly like my heroine, so I have her doing narrative fantasy stories which (hopefully) will be interesting/tantalising and not in the 'ick' category. We shall see.
    See you next week...
    Lily M

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  2. p.s. still giggling about the vacuuming line!

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  3. Hey Lily,
    I'm glad you get a giggle from my madness. I can't wait to read your phone sexing heroine! I hope it's a great way for her to look after her Mum - and I'm glad someone else thinks it's a good money-making option.

    Until next week,
    Cate xo

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