Do you like to have control? Why or why not?
I like both. I like to fight my natural control-freakness sometimes. If it's done with someone strong who I trust, it's an absolute buzz to be at their mercy. I love that feeling of ...hmm... is it terror?... of not knowing quite what they will do... but fighting yourself by reminding yourself about that trust thing. It's exhilarating.
And I've always wanted to have the control but I have rarely achieved it completely. And when I did... wow... it was better than I had imagined. To persist with pleasure to push someone to orgasm was more fun that I would have thought. To have a strong-willed man on his knees before me, open to my touch in places never before touched was a powerful pleasure. I don't want to say it was better than me getting pleasure because I most certainly want to be pleasured again :-) but the euphoria of the moment did make me forget about my needs... or maybe they were met.
I understand why control is a powerful aphrodisiac now... AND I WANT MORE!!